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Autism: Understanding a Different Way of Experiencing the World

Updated: Dec 7, 2025

By Donna Burfield - Joy & Purpose Coaching

 

Autism is often misunderstood, oversimplified, or spoken about as if it’s a problem to be fixed. But autism isn’t something to “cure”; it’s a different neurotype, a unique way of processing the world, and for many, a deeply integral part of their identity.

 

Autistic people aren’t broken. They aren’t “too sensitive,” “too intense,” or “too rigid.” They simply experience life through a different lens, one that deserves respect, understanding, and support rather than judgment.

 

According to The National Autistic Society, more than 700,000 people in the UK are autistic, that’s about 1 in 100. Globally, autism affects roughly 1 in 36 children and millions of adults (CDC). Many adults, especially women, are still being diagnosed later in life because autism in girls was historically missed, misread, or masked.

 

Autism isn’t rare; understanding it is.


 

What Is Autism?

 

Autism (Autism Spectrum Disorder/ASC) is a neurodevelopmental difference that affects:

 

  • Communication

  • Social interaction

  • Sensory processing

  • Emotional regulation

  • How the brain interprets information

 

 

It’s called a “spectrum,” not because it ranges from “mild” to “severe,” but because autistic people have a diverse mix of strengths and challenges. No two autistic individuals are alike.

 

Autism is not caused by parenting styles, personality, or personal choices. It’s lifelong, and it’s part of how the brain is wired.


 

Different Types of Autism You May Hear About

 

While autism is officially diagnosed under one umbrella (ASC), people often use terms that describe different experiences:

 


1. Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD/ASC)

 

The clinical term used today covers a wide range of autistic experiences.

 


2. Asperger’s Syndrome

 

A term previously used for autistic people with average or above-average intelligence and no language delays.

It is no longer used in UK clinical practice but is still part of many adults’ identities.

 


3. Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)

 

Characterised by extreme anxiety when faced with everyday demands, leading to avoidance or distress.

Not a formal DSM/ICD diagnosis, but widely recognised in the UK.

 


4. Non-Speaking or Minimally Speaking Autism

 

Some autistic people communicate through Augmentative and Alternative Communication (AAC) devices, gestures, or nonverbal methods.

 


5. High-Masking or Camouflaging Autism

 

Common in women, girls, LGBTQ+ individuals, and late-diagnosed adults. Masking means hiding autistic traits to “fit in”, often leading to burnout.


 

Common Traits and Signs of Autism in Adults

 

Autism often shows up differently in adults than in children, especially for those who have masked for decades.

 

Communication & Social Traits

 

  • Needing clear, direct communication

  • Struggling with small talk but thriving in deep conversations

  • Misunderstanding social cues

  • Feeling drained by social interaction

  • Preferring predictability and routine

 

Sensory Processing Differences

 

  • Sensitivity to noise, light, smells, textures, or crowds

  • Feeling overwhelmed in busy environments

  • Seeking calming, quiet spaces

  • Sensory overload leading to shutdown or meltdown

 

Cognitive & Behavioural Traits

 

  • Intense focus or “hyperfocus”

  • Deep passions and special interests

  • Close attention to detail

  • Need for rituals or routines

  • Difficulty switching tasks

 

Emotional Regulation

 

  • Feeling things deeply

  • Struggling with unexpected changes

  • Autistic burnout

  • Shutdowns (silent withdrawal)

  • Meltdowns (intense overwhelm, not a tantrum)

 

Physical or Lifestyle Patterns

 

  • Exhaustion from masking

  • Difficulty with executive functioning

  • Sleep disruptions

  • Feeling “out of sync” socially

 

Autism is not a deficit; it’s a different operating system.


 

Why So Many Adults Are Being Diagnosed Now

 

I see this often in coaching: adults in midlife saying, “Something has always felt different, but I thought it was just me.”

 

Reasons include:

 

  • Autism in girls and women was historically overlooked

  • Many adults mask to cope

  • Mental health struggles (anxiety, burnout, depression) led to reassessment

  • Increased awareness and self-reflection

  • Life transitions (parenting, menopause, health changes, career shifts) highlight differences

 

A late diagnosis doesn’t mean you “missed it”; it means you finally have language for your lived experience.


 

Strengths Commonly Found in Autistic Individuals

 

This matters because autism isn’t solely about challenges:

 

  • Honesty and authenticity

  • Creativity and original thinking

  • Deep focus and commitment

  • Reliability and integrity

  • Problem-solving abilities

  • Strong sense of justice

  • Passion for learning

  • Loyalty and empathy (yes, autistic people can have extraordinary empathy)

 

Autistic minds bring richness to our workplaces, communities, and families.


 

What Can Help

 

Professional Assessment

 

A GP referral or private assessment can provide clarity and support.

 


Therapeutic & Coaching Support

 

Autism-informed coaching, trauma-informed therapy, occupational therapy, and sensory support can be life-changing.

 


Adjusting Environments

 

  • Clear communication

  • Predictable routines

  • Sensory-friendly spaces

  • Breaks from overwhelm

 


Understanding and Self-Compassion

 

Autism isn’t something you “fix.” It’s something you honour, understand, and work with rather than against.


 

UK Support Organisations

 

 

Understanding yourself is not self-indulgent. It’s self-respect. It’s self-connection. And it’s the foundation of living with ease, confidence, and authenticity.

 

You deserve support, acceptance, and a life that honours how your brain truly works.



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